On Smiling

 So, I've been really intentional about my facials.

I used to have a crazy Resting Bitch Face. I'd always been frowning

And the funniest thing is... I didn't even know I frown a lot.

Yet, I was always wondering why I was unapproachable and don't make friends easily.

Well, I'd begun working on my social etiquette, and smiling is a crucial part of it.

I did a lot of mouth/lips exercises

I consciously make the effort to keep a friendly demeanour as I exit.

And I won't lie, I get more reception from people.

The first time it worked was when I attended the Oracle Ng competition at UNN.

I was sorta cheery as I exited the hall, and the female usher reciprocated.

I won't lie, it felt good.

Also with kids.

I'd always bragged that kids don't come close to me.

Little did I know it's cos of my Resting Bitch Face too.

Until I tested this out.

I'd gone to pay the NEPA bills, and the baby was on the floor. And I smiled at him.

Immediately, he started chuckling and spreading his arms towards me. Smiling eagerly.

This too felt good.

Then today, I was sent on an errand in my street. I hadn't seen these people in years, and I'm supposed to make an inquiry.

The icebreaker was my eyes lighting up, and theirs responding. Then, I smiled as wide and talked to them

It went well too.

Nothing beats discovering you have an area to work on and improving on it

Sure, the Resting Bitch Face had saved me from unnecessary approaching and all.

But in real life, you need likeability to thrive.

And on top of my Introversion, having a Resting Bitch Face will be me murdering any chance of building relationships and connections