On The Spotlight Effect
I really like this book: 'You Are Not So Smart Book by David McRaney' cos it really points out these cognitive biases that we human beings have. The spotlight effect makes people think the world revolves around them. It is pure ego to assume that when I talk about my body, I am thinking about yours. When I got down to 70kg from 83kg and said I wanted to drop to 62 or 65 kg, that goal belonged to me alone. It was never an attack on anyone who is bigger. It is not a judgment on size. I have a specific way I want my body to look and feel, and that standard comes strictly from me. This has nothing to do with body dysmorphia. I do not set my fitness goals by comparing myself to anyone else. When I think about my own physique, no one is in the picture but myself. When I say I feel bloated or bigger, it is because the standard of how I want to look is based on my goals and my goals alone. It is self-absorbed to believe that based on the virtue of being on the bigger side, that you inf...