Be yourself...

People are always advised to be themselves in anywhere they find themselves in, but sometimes a person has to compromise in order to fit in as the saying goes "when you get to Rome, you behave like the Romans" A person adjusting his or her character a little so as to have better communication with others isn't wrong but what is wrong is when you transform yourself completely. Its better to behave as one's character is so that people will get to know you as you are than pretending to be someone you are not, cos believe me, one day you will be discovered which in turn will lead to your humiliation and embarassment in a very terrible manner. 

Reasons why people pretend to be something else. 

There are many reasons for that, I will list a few

⭐ To receive recognition: Yes, many people just forget where they come from and behave otherwise because they want to be recognized as the best or be noticed by the higherups. Thus giving them leverage over others in terms of treatment and receiving goodies. Its good in a way cos you are treated specially but how long will that last? If you live a life of pretence, will that change you, of course not, Its same thing as drawing lines on a watermelon to turn it to a pumpkin or putting thorns on a squirrel to become a porcupine, its never going to change and thats same as pretence

⭐ To fit in or belong: I think that this is the most common reason. To be popular, be the 'it' persons. I really dont blame people that do that because they have their reasons. Maybe they were loners previously and are in need of friends but Sweetheart pretending wont get you anywhere, you will be tempted to lie and once you do that it just establishes serials of lies if you dont know. And trust me, once you are found out, the disgrace that will be metted to you is just unimaginable. 

⭐ Duty calls: Peope also pretend to be what they are not because of their responsibility in their various dutyposts. They pretend because people are looking up to them so they just cant live short of their expectations. I think this is the most painful type cos even when you do everything you think is right, they'd still expect more from you. If you fall under this category, I advise you to stop, its not leading you anywhere. Just be yourself, people will talk, of course its certain but it will only last for a while, I mean it, just a little while and believe me, they will come to accept you as you are. 

Am done trying to pretend in order to please people. I've always told anyone that questions me about myself that 'If you dont like my attitude, quit talking to me' If you dont like how I treat you, I think you should check yourself because my attitude towards you is cos of how you approach me. Am not saying that we should keep up our character even if its bad but we should be ourselves so that people will love the real you and help you be a better person, trust me, I've done that, and am becoming a better person thanks to them and am also helping them become better people. I hope you'd do same...

Still yours...

Las B...