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A family friend reached out to my brother and said -  "Gị na daddy unu nọ ebe a, chọọ Ị hapụ ụmụnne unu nwaanyị ka ha nọdụ na be unu kaa nká" Translation - That he and my father are sitting back, without doing anything as the females remain married She even suggested places to go for spiritual consultation. My brother really struggled with the right response for a respected family friend and ended up replying with just a greeting. The thing with the older generation is that they truly do believe that marriage is the pinnacle of it all, specifically for women My father, thankfully, has never badgered me for marriage other than, "don't go and entangle with someone from faraway. I can't travel on longer routes now that I am older" But the whole marriage incitement is an epidemic.  When Nigerians say "marry early," it usually boils down to these arguments - 1. So you'll look like your kids' sibling instead of their parent 2. You don't want

So, I'm watching Sky castle, a kdrama and this character in the movie cut his wife's credit cards and said he'd stop wiring money for living expenses to her.  This is someone that's a stay-at-home mom, and basically runs and maintains the household Why did he cut off the cards? Cos the woman revamped the prison-like room he called study room for their children. Not for her personal gain, but for their kids And gave her 3 days ultimatum to revert things back as it were. As per head of the household. How dare she change things without his permission? First off... I am willing to die on the hill that "being a stay-at-home wife and mom" is a full-time job that requires full compensation as with every other job. Afterall, the cleaners in the offices, and chefs get paid. However, a woman is expected to do that for free. It's quite unfortunate that there aren't laws that officially recognise STH women's role yet. Maka ya kam ji sị... Even if said man has

 When you feel envious of others, it's really coming from a place of inadequacy of yourself. And I say this as someone that feels envious of others as well. And the sheer fact I am actively aware of this... Means that it's normal afterall. I know that: 1. You are not in competition with anyone other than yourself 2. You should measure your progress based on your past self 3. You shouldn't compare your background to others  4. The pace of everyone will not be same Hell, when I'm feeling the envy, I actually know that I am, and I shouldn't. But I just let myself feel that way instead of tryna quell it completely  So this is how I see it.  Most days I'm happy. Some days are shit days. Those occurrences don't negate the other fully exciting days. So when I have those feelings, I let it wash over me for those few moments. Let the shit days to pass. And then I'm back to normal.