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I actually do enjoy watching all these tiktok aesthetics You know these videos that has several filming, long hours of editing, added colours and effects... I just relish basking in them. The world they create is called simulacra. It's Hyper-reality. Carefully curated for you to see their world in a specific way. Like DisneyLand. Like Marvel Universe. These videos have been warped to fit a certain image.  Many Cuts. Takes. To represent a kinda lifestyle. In reality, those scenes are most likely bland and as normal as anything. But these videos create an image that makes the lifestyle and views aspirational. So I live vicariously through them.

A Facebooker made a harmless post about "same way men select wives based on personality match, that's same way women choose their partners" And this man is spewing this. Because for him, all women who cross an age threshold are desperate and can't make a choice.  That's not even the problem I have with his stance. My issue is this : " So if I'm living alone at 45, who e concern. If apparently women don't feel fulfilled without marriage or kids, Are you the one feeling downtrodden with me? Is it not going to be me managing the "supposed" depression all by myself bikonu?" So why this always pains men like this beats me oo. I can't understand it eziokwu. I no fit.  Or is it cos they are so scared and can't envision the possibility that a grownass woman would find fulfilment all by herself without being with man?  Heiiiii... The thing rijuru m ọnụ. God forbid

 I know people shit on self-improvement nonfiction books But that genre doesn't only constitute career improvement, finance, public speaking, or relationships books... I find that I prefer the ones that deal with communication, psychology and self-introspection  So Here are my 5 most recommended -  1. You're not so smart (David McRaney) - this one made me get my head outta my ass in many prejudices I had 2. Ikigai (Francesc Mirlalles) - Think contentment in a piece of work. Finding balance where your needs, ambitions, desires, and satisfaction meets 3. Non-verbal communication (Marshall Rosenberg) - Think empathy in how we communicate. Quelling that anger to outburst (and none of the meditation required) 4. The defining decade (Meg Jay) - absolute recommended for those in 20s. Especially in this modern world 5. The art of witty banter (Partick King) - If you find small talk excruciatingly tiring like I do, you need to read this one

 On this whole domestic issue, there's nothing I can say that hasn't been said before I used to be one of those people that say - " it can never be me" Then, I read Colleen Hoover's "It all ends with us." And I kid you not, I was fervently wishing that the guy changes. He was an amazing person. Really praying, and it dawned on me on the inkling as to what DV victims feel. Colleen Hoover wrote the book based on her own mother's experience. Her father was a great parent, but terrible spouse. Her mom eventually got the courage to leave. Osinachi didn't. This woman didn't. And honestly, I no longer have an opinion on either of their choices.  Sure, she obviously knew that she was in a bad place. But as I'd been hoping that the MC in It all ends with us changes, they must have been doing same for their spouse. But they didn't survive  So I'm no longer team - "it can never be me" I'm team - *"God Abeg oo, may I not tr...

The Chinenye of 2019 woulda been happy about this. But the copywriter Chinenye understands the business now.  Here is how it works - the results you achieve is directly proportional to what you get paid. So if the men's NBA club pull in majority of all basketball games, then obviously men will be paid higher. Same with football.  I mean, I don't even know any single female footballer. How many women actually watch football, especially female football? The audience matters. Men watch sports like football and basketball like crazy. So obviously, the men should be paid more. And also why female gymnasts are obviously paid more/receive more endorsements than the men.  Also why Big brother female housemates receive more endorsements after the house, while the men just about fade to obscurity It's all about the money you get for the Industry. Not everything is Patriarchy fault 

 When I was younger, I actually had no qualms about changing my surname after marriage.  Because I thought it's done automatically. Like, once I'm married, for some reason... my surname automatically changes to my spouse's I didn't know I had to officially go to court and legalise the change the name. And formally conclude with declaration of names in newspapers. Wo! When we talk about this changing of surname issue - the sheer fact of not wanting not to change the surname is enough reason to be honest But if we want more logical justification, here is one. I work as a virtual assistant. And I've received hundreds of messages from women, who have to swear affidavit, or produce different documents of before and after details, because some of their documents have their maiden name, while others have their spouse surname The men on the other hand, never need to bother about different names, except those with name discrepancies, or had changed their names So women go th...

You know people say - "You're still in your 20s, you don't know enough about the divine hormones and shit." Yes, I'm not disputing it. But It's important to know you have options. Biological parenting isn't by force Kids are a lot of work. These ones I'm staying with here - I'm not exactly feeling the maternal affection supposedly innate in women. The other arguement is - "you won't have anyone take care of you in your old age." Well newsflash, almost everyone in old people's home have kids and grandkids. But the kids have their goddamn life as well. I envision -  Reading. Mentor young women. Talking about A.I and shit in events. Binge on a show. Rinse and repeat. I've hardly quite Thought of kids in the equation save that I can have two max - then possibly hysterectomy. If I'm childless and my body eventually gives in to old age, I'd have stashed enough money for paying for my old people's home after a fulfilled l...