Life with Las B...

I actually do enjoy watching all these tiktok aesthetics You know these videos that has several filming, long hours of editing, added colours and effects... I just relish basking in them. The world they create is called simulacra. It's Hyper-reality. Carefully curated for you to see their world in a specific way. Like DisneyLand. Like Marvel Universe. These videos have been warped to fit a certain image.  Many Cuts. Takes. To represent a kinda lifestyle. In reality, those scenes are most likely bland and as normal as anything. But these videos create an image that makes the lifestyle and views aspirational. So I live vicariously through them.

A Facebooker made a harmless post about "same way men select wives based on personality match, that's same way women choose their partners" And this man is spewing this. Because for him, all women who cross an age threshold are desperate and can't make a choice.  That's not even the problem I have with his stance. My issue is this : " So if I'm living alone at 45, who e concern. If apparently women don't feel fulfilled without marriage or kids, Are you the one feeling downtrodden with me? Is it not going to be me managing the "supposed" depression all by myself bikonu?" So why this always pains men like this beats me oo. I can't understand it eziokwu. I no fit.  Or is it cos they are so scared and can't envision the possibility that a grownass woman would find fulfilment all by herself without being with man?  Heiiiii... The thing rijuru m ọnụ. God forbid

 I know people shit on self-improvement nonfiction books But that genre doesn't only constitute career improvement, finance, public speaking, or relationships books... I find that I prefer the ones that deal with communication, psychology and self-introspection  So Here are my 5 most recommended -  1. You're not so smart (David McRaney) - this one made me get my head outta my ass in many prejudices I had 2. Ikigai (Francesc Mirlalles) - Think contentment in a piece of work. Finding balance where your needs, ambitions, desires, and satisfaction meets 3. Non-verbal communication (Marshall Rosenberg) - Think empathy in how we communicate. Quelling that anger to outburst (and none of the meditation required) 4. The defining decade (Meg Jay) - absolute recommended for those in 20s. Especially in this modern world 5. The art of witty banter (Partick King) - If you find small talk excruciatingly tiring like I do, you need to read this one